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Libido & Menopause Support

Q: Will hypnotherapy “make me want sex”?

Hypnotherapy is not about forcing anything. It focuses on calming the nervous system, reducing pressure, improving sleep and confidence, and helping you feel more comfortable in your body, which often supports desire returning more naturally.

Q: What if stress and exhaustion are the real issue?

That is very common. Sessions can focus on reducing the stress load first through better regulation, calmer thinking, improved sleep cues, and steady emotional resilience.

Q: Will online sessions work for this?

Yes. Many people prefer online support for privacy and comfort. Google Meet sessions are discreet and easy to fit around life.

Changes in libido can feel confusing, upsetting, or hard to talk about — especially when it affects identity, confidence, or relationship connection. Perimenopause and menopause can also bring shifts in sleep, mood, anxiety, and stress sensitivity, which can make it harder to switch off and feel present in your body.

This is a confidential, judgment-free space to calm the nervous system, reduce stress reactivity, and support you in feeling more like yourself again.

Online sessions only (Google Meet) — private, discreet, and available worldwide.Based in Dublin, providing confidential online hypnotherapy worldwide via Google Meet.

Support desire, confidence, sleep, and emotional well-being through perimenopause or menopause — calmly and confidentially

Common reasons people seek support

Low libido or difficulty feeling desire
Trouble switching off mentally or relaxing into intimacy
Increased anxiety, irritability, or emotional overload
Sleep disruption and racing thoughts at night
Confidence dips or changes in body-image and identity
Feeling disconnected from your body or “not like yourself”

Format: Online hypnotherapy (Google Meet)
Areas served: Worldwide
Focus: Calm the system • improve sleep • reduce anxiety • support confidence and connection
Approach: Hypnotherapy + NLP + CBT-informed tools (tailored to you)
Confidentiality: Strictly private and judgement-free
Next step: 30-minute confidential discovery call

At a Glance:Key Details

Libido isn’t just physical — it’s strongly connected to the nervous system and emotional safety. When you’re stressed, exhausted, under pressure, or not sleeping well, the body often prioritises survival and coping over desire.

Perimenopause/menopause can also increase stress sensitivity and disrupt sleep, which creates a knock-on effect:

less rest → more reactivity
more reactivity → harder to switch off
harder to switch off → intimacy becomes effortful or avoidant

This support focuses on calming the system and reducing the mental load so your body can come out of “alert mode”.

Why Libido Often Drops When Stress Is High

In sessions, we focus on:

calming nervous system over-activation (fight/flight/freeze)
reducing anxiety and racing thoughts
improving sleep cues and switching off at night
rebuilding confidence, self-trust, and comfort in your body
reducing pressure or guilt around intimacy
strengthening emotional connection and safety (where relevant)

What many clients notice

improved sleep quality and easier winding down
reduced anxiety and irritability
more emotional steadiness
less pressure around intimacy
a gradual return of comfort, confidence, and desire

How Hypnotherapy Helps with Libido and Menopause-Related Stress

Hypnotherapy (Core)

relaxation
sleep support
confidence

NLP

reducing triggers
strengthening positive anchors
future pacing

CBT-informed

easing catastrophising
self-criticism
“I’ll never feel normal again” thinking

Grounding & regulation (without forcing breathing)

If breathing exercises are uncomfortable, we use alternatives such as:

posture and muscle release
sensory grounding (touch/temperature/feet on floor)
attention shifting and “present-moment anchors”

Practical Tools We May Use (Tailored to You)

1) A calm, confidential conversation

We clarify what’s changed, what feels hardest right now, and what you want instead.

2) Identify what’s maintaining the pattern

Often it’s sleep disruption, stress load, pressure, confidence dips, relationship tension, or feeling disconnected from your body.

3) Hypnosis (safe and controlled)

You remain aware and in control. We use hypnosis to calm the system and reinforce new emotional and behavioural patterns.

4) Reinforcement between sessions

Simple tools to support sleep, mood, and confidence between sessions.

What to Expect in an Online Session (Google Meet)

The most powerful sexual organ is not the body—it is the mind. However, stress, fatigue, or deep-seated inhibition can dampen our ability to access our imagination, leaving our libido feeling "offline."

At Paul Matthews Hypnosis, I help clients use the natural power of the subconscious to "improve" their fantasies—making them more vivid, accessible, and enjoyable to jumpstart the body’s physical response.

How Hypnotherapy Enhances Fantasy

1. "Turning Up the Dials" (Sensory Amplification) Using NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), we look at how you visualise. Often, when libido is low, our mental images are dim, distant, or black-and-white.

We can consciously "edit" these submodalities—making the mental imagery brighter, closer, and more colourful. By engaging all the senses (Visual, Auditory, and Kinesthetic) in a trance state, we can turn a fleeting thought into a powerful, immersive experience that triggers a genuine physical response.

2. Removing the "Inner Censor" Many of us subconsciously "block" our own fantasies before they even fully form, usually due to lingering shame, religious conditioning, or a feeling of "silliness." Hypnotherapy helps to dissolve this inner judge. We work to install a sense of permission—allowing you to accept your private thoughts as a healthy, safe, and normal part of your sexuality. When the guilt is removed, the imagination flows freely again.

3. The Bridge to Reality For clients dealing with low desire in a relationship, fantasy acts as a safe "rehearsal space." By associating positive, arousing feelings with your partner in your mind first, we prime the nervous system to be more responsive when you are physically together.

"Fantasy is the spark plug of the libido. We simply clean the connections to get the engine firing again."

Revitalising Libido Through Healthy Fantasy

Menopause and libido changes can involve hormonal, medical, medication-related, pain-related, or health contributors. Hypnotherapy complements medical care by supporting stress regulation, sleep, coping, confidence, and emotional well-being. If symptoms are new, severe, or worrying, it's appropriate to speak with your GP/consultant.

Important Medical Note

All sessions are private, confidential, and conducted via secure Google Meet. Your transformation takes place in the comfort and privacy of your own home.

Frequently Asked Questions

If you’re dealing with changes in libido, sleep, mood, or confidence during perimenopause or menopause, it’s completely normal to have questions — especially when the topic feels personal and hard to talk about. The FAQs below cover what sessions are like, how we keep things confidential, how online support works, and when it’s sensible to check in with your GP as well.

If you don't see your question here or simply want to talk things through, you are always welcome to reach out. You don't have to figure this out alone—I am here to help you take the next step whenever you feel ready.

📧 Email: paul@paulmatthewshypnosis.ie

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Yes — many people prefer online support for privacy and comfort. Google Meet sessions are discreet and easy to fit around life.

Will online sessions work for this?

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Do I need to talk about intimate details?

No. You choose what you share. We can work with patterns, triggers and goals without explicit detail.

What if stress and exhaustion are the real issue?

That’s very common. We work with the stress load first: better regulation, calmer thinking, improved sleep cues, and steady emotional resilience.

Will hypnotherapy “make me want sex”?

Hypnotherapy isn’t about forcing anything. It focuses on calming the nervous system, reducing pressure, improving sleep and confidence, and helping you feel more comfortable in your body — which often supports desire returning more naturally.

Is it normal for libido to change during perimenopause or menopause?

Yes. Many people experience changes in desire, comfort, sleep, mood and stress sensitivity. Support can help you feel steadier and more connected to yourself again.